The Four Tendencies

The Four Tendencies - Gretchen Rubin

In The Four Tendencies, Rubin expounds upon a framework for how people respond to expectations that she first explored in Better Than Before. The four groupings are broken up as follows:

  • Upholders - accomplish both internal and external expectations.
  • Obligers - accomplish external expectations but struggle with internal ones. 
  • Questioners - accomplish internal expectations but need to know the reason why to accomplish external expectations.
  • Rebels - do what they want to do. Struggle with internal and external expectations. 

This book can help to make sense of different people and how books with a "one size fits all" solution to any problem are not going to work for everybody. As a coach or someone who teaches or tries to help other people with problems, this book can be really useful for communicating effectively. It can also be useful for anyone who is struggling to accomplish things in their own lives and maybe doesn't know what type of Tendency they fall under. Once you've better realized how you consistently respond to expectations you will be able to better structure your life and the strategies you use to improve your life.